what you don't know about me could fill a book

suhair. 22. black american.
polysexual and demiromantic.
dfab genderescent demigirl
sinh/cosh/cosh/tanh/sinhself
OR
they/them/their/theirs/themself
infp. pisces. slytherclaw.

THIS IS A PERSONAL BLOG.

itrhymeswithalayne:

benicebefunny:

Wouldn’t it be nice if everyone stopped reblogging shit from a "gender critical" (but totes not transphobic! really!) radfem whose one critique of a screed about “trans assholes” is that it didn’t include disabled cis women’s perspective, and who also reblogs shit that perpetuates the erasure of autistic folks who use ~cutesy pronouns~, and seems to be fairly invested in perpetuating the disability hierarchy?

I realize people are probably reblogging this post (cw: rape) to highlight the higher incidences of sexual abuse amongst disabled women and girls and to bring attention to the exclusion of disabled women and girls from feminism. Which is good, yay. But the “women and girls” disabledgirlism is fighting for is a very exclusionary group that seeks to gain privilege in society by shitting on trans people (except “trans people with sex dysphoria,” who have disabledgirlism’s stamp of approval)

She also shits all over chronically ill girls, and suggests we don’t know what ableism is. She’s just another awful radfem basically, and I urge people not to reblog her shit

(via thatfeministqueer)

panpuru:

panpuru:

ughgh ok we seriously need words to describe identities with matching romantic/sexual identities, as well as non-matching romantic/sexual identities

examples: homoromantic asexual (a non-matching identity) and homoromantic homosexual (a matching identity) 

I’m not imaginative or word-savvy enough to create names for these kinds of identities but uh yooo if any1 wants to it would be sooo appreciated 

OK SO THE AMAZING AND TALENTED SARAH DID EXACTLY THIS AND CREATED TWO BEAUTIFUL NEW WORDS: 

perioriented - “matching” identity

varioriented - "non-matching" identity

(via kayliemalinza)

pyrobe:

sweatyfriend:

kaorv:

please PLEASE don’t tag triggers with any kind of key smash after them it doesn’t matter if its symbols or numbers of letters don’t do it

the xkit blacklist only blocks posts that are tagged with the word by itself

the argument that you don’t want an index of triggering things on your blog is irrelevant because who is going to go be triggered by something and then go through a tag of it on someone’s blog

ive seen this a lot and it used to be a huge problem for me, the xkit blacklist is not very efficient, i would really recommend tumblr savior instead if you arent already aware of it (its for all browsers), it blocks posts that have any word or tag you have blacklisted no matter if its tagged w/ key smashes or not

if you use xkit blacklister you can set it to block words even if they have something like a keysmash after it if you put an * after the word

example:

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so then if a post is tagged with something like #slurs thgdh it will be blocked regardless!

(via rubato)

DO NOT SUPPORT JELLY BELLY THIS EASTER

mayonnaisejane:

waitingfordesire:

Jelly Belly Chairman donates $5000 to help turn back the rights of trans kids in California to use the bath room and change rooms of their gender identity, not assigned sex.
Source: THE AGE

That means no more Bertie Botts beans either folks.

(via hexgoddess)

“Look, without our stories, without the true nature and reality of who we are as People of Color, nothing about fanboy or fangirl culture would make sense. What I mean by that is: if it wasn’t for race, X-Men doesn’t make sense. If it wasn’t for the history of breeding human beings in the New World through chattel slavery, Dune doesn’t make sense. If it wasn’t for the history of colonialism and imperialism, Star Wars doesn’t make sense. If it wasn’t for the extermination of so many Indigenous First Nations, most of what we call science fiction’s contact stories doesn’t make sense. Without us as the secret sauce, none of this works, and it is about time that we understood that we are the Force that holds the Star Wars universe together. We’re the Prime Directive that makes Star Trek possible, yeah. In the Green Lantern Corps, we are the oath. We are all of these things—erased, and yet without us—we are essential.”

—   

Junot Díaz, “The Junot Díaz Episode" (18 November 2013) on Fan Bros, a podcast “for geek culture via people of colors” (via kynodontas)

Let em know dad.

(via kenobi-wan-obi)

I think the next time someone gets confused as to possibly why people were hoping Katniss would be portrayed as nonwhite, this quote above is why.

(via thelouringlady)

(via ethiopienne)

roachpatrol:

ok so what if Harry and Neville got into like this passive-aggressive lie-off regarding what a truly great man Severus Snape was like they got drunk and Harry was like ‘Snape though’ and Neville was like ‘I know right’ and Harry was like ‘what a… what a fantastic bastard. What a guy.’ and Neville was like ‘we should fuckin’ get him like, like… let’s have a funeral. A huge fucking fuck-off sized funeral with like, lilies, and, a marble coffin, and a big statue, an’ crying women, an’ all that shit’ and Harry got whiskey up his nose laughing so hard and he falls off his stool and just wheezes 'lillies'

and then during the funeral Neville and Harry like spend the whole time trying to give a better eulogy like they keep getting back up after each other are done to try and have another go at it but then they get schooled by Hermione being like ‘for fuck’s sake boys this is how it’s done’ and she goes up to the podium and just bursts into wild banshee hysterics and throws herself across the glistening marble casket, sobbing ‘oh, it should have been me, would to god that it were me, you stallion of a professor’ and all the reporters tear up a little and then go home to pen really fervid biopics on this bleakly noble and tragically overlooked hero of the revolution

anyway like eighteen years later Harry names his kid after Severus and sends an owl off to Neville like ‘your move, mate’ and Nevill pauses in the middle of polishing the giant marble statue of Snape tenderly cuddling an armfull of adoring woodland creatures that dominates like 2/3 of his office to cuss a lot and pour himself another drink

(via amorremanet)

estifi:

The proud English peoples—who started building up their society on an island off the coast of France—have over 52 words for “poop”. The concept must be very important to them if they have so many words—poop, shit, crap, dung, caca, fæces, poo, shite, doodoo, doody, poopy, guano, excrement, turd, scat, stool, manure and muck being some of the more important ones.

They even have adapted proverbs and honorific titles around the idea. Among others, these include:

  • No shit, Sherlock.
  • Shithead
  • Little Shit
  • Holy Shit
  • Holy Crap
  • You’ve got to be shitting me.
  • I will shit on everything you love.
  • Poopdeck
  • You listen to some shitty/crappy music
  • He who lives on hope, dies on shit.
  • Shit’s goin’ down.
  • Does a bear shit in the woods?
  • Don’t poop in a field and don’t talk in a forest.
  • It’s just a bunch of crap.

The English are an odd, exotic people who care so much about shit, their lives revolve around it.

(Source: estifito, via rubato)

okay i have to do chores now

gallifreyglo:

owning-my-truth:

knowledgeequalsblackpower:

sayofthelivinganything:

blackhiiipstress:

muzungus:

thugger-thugger:

theacebooncoon:

niafarai:

thetrillestqueen:

obesityrehab:

why touch her hair though? Dammit…

Reason number 45-60754280865’11B I won’t go on a mission trip.

I am soooo done

Mission trips make me sick

ugh


This baby girl is being treated like a tourist attraction or a wild animal and I am not here for this. This picture says so much about the owner of that white hand.

This photo makes me feel so uncomfortable

this photo makes me fucking angry.and a mission trip? .. yeah, aka colonialism.

Get OUT of our countries with this fucking bullshit, honestly. Missionaries are already fucking so much up in African countries. As a gay Nigerian I LIVE the repercussions of this daily. I’ve been exorcised, had bibles thrown at me, been sent to priests for a “cure”, been given spiritual baths which burn my skin to “wash the devil out of me” you name it. Done by my own family and people at the behest of “our Lord and Savior”. It’s traumatic, and especially hurtful when we understand that general acceptance of same sex love and eroticism and more nuanced, varied understandings of gender were the norm PRIOR to colonization and missionary activity.
And then we have pictures like this to remind us of the OTHER bullshit these missionary fuckers do. They roll up in our countries as “white saviors” and are constantly doing racist bullshit like this. Objectifying us, casting us as “primitive” and in need of being saved from ourselves and our “heathen” ways. Let’s not even start on the rampant sexual abuses priests committed against Africans across the continent. The ways in which they destroyed and suppressed our cultures. Made us hate ourselves to the point that today we call our own grandfathers and grandmothers with traditional beliefs “despicable heathens” and Satanists. Where they have so warped our cultures, identities and understanding of self, to fit THEIR white colonial mold.
We forget that missionaries came as colonizers first and foremost, and in many cases caused far more egregious and long lasting damage than the colonial administrators themselves. And they are still doing it today. Look at the rise of Christian fundamentalism in Africa in the last 30 years and you will see a direct correlation with a rise in hate and animus against same sex loving and trans people in many African countries. Watch the movie “God Loves Uganda” if you don’t believe me: the legacy and impact of missionaries on Africa is DAMNING and is getting WORSE, especially for those of us who identify as LGBTQ.
It makes me sick. This picture makes me sick. Missionaries make me sick. What they have done to our cultures and communities and traditions makes me sick. Their racism cloaked with a smile and their “good Book” makes me sick. The fact that they think that they’re “doing good” while they’re just reproducing white supremacist patriarchal colonial structures of control, domination and subjugation makes me sick. They don’t see us as full people, but as spectacles for their white gaze, as this picture makes so bitingly clear, and they don’t give a damn as long as they make their God “happy”
You have caused so much pain in my life and that of many of my friends. It hurts.
GET THE FUCK OUT OF AFRICA (or wherever this pic was taken) AND LEAVE OUR CHILDREN ALONE!!!!
And a big fuck you to all of the people doing mission “service trips” to ~*aFRicA*~ too. 
 
I’m utterly and completely done.

As a daughter of black missionaries who have taken predominantly white people with them on short term missions to black and brown countries, I can attest that these people are often poorly trained with little to offer except demonstrations of their supposed superiority (as Christians, as white people and as westerners).
It gives them a huge white savior high and then they come back taking abut how the trip changed their lives (nothing much about the people they were going to “help” because you can’t do anything in a week).
Mind you, these are the same Fox News watching republicans who don’t want a penny of “their money” going to healthcare or WIC or homelessness or schools. But these foreign brown and black people are somehow better, more noble and more worthy of their attention than the starving and impoverished people whose gaze they avoid and plight they ignore in their own countries. Not so scary and argumentative and more appreciative. [huge eye roll]

gallifreyglo:

owning-my-truth:

knowledgeequalsblackpower:

sayofthelivinganything:

blackhiiipstress:

muzungus:

thugger-thugger:

theacebooncoon:

niafarai:

thetrillestqueen:

obesityrehab:

why touch her hair though? Dammit…

Reason number 45-60754280865’11B I won’t go on a mission trip.

I am soooo done

Mission trips make me sick

ugh

This baby girl is being treated like a tourist attraction or a wild animal and I am not here for this. This picture says so much about the owner of that white hand.

This photo makes me feel so uncomfortable

this photo makes me fucking angry.

and a mission trip? .. yeah, aka colonialism.

Get OUT of our countries with this fucking bullshit, honestly. Missionaries are already fucking so much up in African countries. As a gay Nigerian I LIVE the repercussions of this daily. I’ve been exorcised, had bibles thrown at me, been sent to priests for a “cure”, been given spiritual baths which burn my skin to “wash the devil out of me” you name it. Done by my own family and people at the behest of “our Lord and Savior”. It’s traumatic, and especially hurtful when we understand that general acceptance of same sex love and eroticism and more nuanced, varied understandings of gender were the norm PRIOR to colonization and missionary activity.

And then we have pictures like this to remind us of the OTHER bullshit these missionary fuckers do. They roll up in our countries as “white saviors” and are constantly doing racist bullshit like this. Objectifying us, casting us as “primitive” and in need of being saved from ourselves and our “heathen” ways. Let’s not even start on the rampant sexual abuses priests committed against Africans across the continent. The ways in which they destroyed and suppressed our cultures. Made us hate ourselves to the point that today we call our own grandfathers and grandmothers with traditional beliefs “despicable heathens” and Satanists. Where they have so warped our cultures, identities and understanding of self, to fit THEIR white colonial mold.

We forget that missionaries came as colonizers first and foremost, and in many cases caused far more egregious and long lasting damage than the colonial administrators themselves. And they are still doing it today. Look at the rise of Christian fundamentalism in Africa in the last 30 years and you will see a direct correlation with a rise in hate and animus against same sex loving and trans people in many African countries. Watch the movie “God Loves Uganda” if you don’t believe me: the legacy and impact of missionaries on Africa is DAMNING and is getting WORSE, especially for those of us who identify as LGBTQ.

It makes me sick. This picture makes me sick. Missionaries make me sick. What they have done to our cultures and communities and traditions makes me sick. Their racism cloaked with a smile and their “good Book” makes me sick. The fact that they think that they’re “doing good” while they’re just reproducing white supremacist patriarchal colonial structures of control, domination and subjugation makes me sick. They don’t see us as full people, but as spectacles for their white gaze, as this picture makes so bitingly clear, and they don’t give a damn as long as they make their God “happy”

You have caused so much pain in my life and that of many of my friends. It hurts.

GET THE FUCK OUT OF AFRICA (or wherever this pic was taken) AND LEAVE OUR CHILDREN ALONE!!!!

And a big fuck you to all of the people doing mission “service trips” to ~*aFRicA*~ too. 

 

I’m utterly and completely done.

As a daughter of black missionaries who have taken predominantly white people with them on short term missions to black and brown countries, I can attest that these people are often poorly trained with little to offer except demonstrations of their supposed superiority (as Christians, as white people and as westerners).

It gives them a huge white savior high and then they come back taking abut how the trip changed their lives (nothing much about the people they were going to “help” because you can’t do anything in a week).

Mind you, these are the same Fox News watching republicans who don’t want a penny of “their money” going to healthcare or WIC or homelessness or schools. But these foreign brown and black people are somehow better, more noble and more worthy of their attention than the starving and impoverished people whose gaze they avoid and plight they ignore in their own countries. Not so scary and argumentative and more appreciative. [huge eye roll]

(Source: and--lo, via tabruco)

softmotherswimming:

emotionalabuseawareness:

 Words Can Get In The Way - How to NOT Talk To Kids

SO. FUCKING. IMPORTANT.
Learning to speak to children in a constructive, positively reinforcing, non-abusive way (which was hard to unlearn due to my own abuse) is one of the most important things i have ever learned to do. It’s also dramatically changed how i speak with adults.

softmotherswimming:

emotionalabuseawareness:

Words Can Get In The Way - How to NOT Talk To Kids

SO. FUCKING. IMPORTANT.

Learning to speak to children in a constructive, positively reinforcing, non-abusive way (which was hard to unlearn due to my own abuse) is one of the most important things i have ever learned to do. It’s also dramatically changed how i speak with adults.

(via thatfeministqueer)